If you are new to the Enneagram, I highly recommend reading the 101 version of this blog post! Once you have a basic understanding of your number and potential wings, come back here to dive deeper.
The 3 Triads
If you notice, the Enneagram symbol has 3 different sections. These are called the Triads. Your Triad tells you what your center of intelligence, or body connection is. Basically, how you see, process and respond to the world. There are three types under each Triad and knowing yours, could help you better understand your tendencies and behaviors. It could also help you understand your loved ones and why they function similarly or different from you.
Remember, one of the goals of the Enneagram is for us to have more compassion for others. We don’t use this information to excuse poor behavior or vindicate our choices. It’s simply a tool to help us learn more about ourselves and others. You might grow to understand….
Why your brother might always seem to pick a fight.
Why your bestie stuffs her own feelings, but validates everyone else’s.
Why your co-worker appears self absorbed all the time, but you know she’s got more to offer.
The 3 Triads
Head (fear-based) 5s, 6s, 7s
These types are driven by fear. They tend to think and plan carefully before they act.
Type 5 - externalize fear by searching for more knowledge: “I need to do more research first.”
Type 6 - internalize fear by considering worse-case scenarios: “I’m not sure this is a good idea.”
Type 7 - forget fear by avoiding and chasing new adventures: “What’s next?!”
Heart (feeling based) 2s, 3s, 4s
These types relate to life from their heart. They are typically more aware of appearances and very image-conscious.
Type 2 - focus outwardly on the feelings of others: “Let’s talk about you first.”
Type 3 - have trouble recognizing their own and others feelings: “Those aren’t tears, I have allergies.”
Type 4 - concentrate on their own feelings: “I am unique snowflake.”
Gut (anger-based) 8s, 9s, 1s
These types are honest, blunt and direct. They react instinctually or from their gut.
Type 8 - externalize their anger physically and powerfully: “I’m so mad about this!”
Type 9 - forget or deny anger to avoid pain: “No really, it’s fine.”
Type 1 - internalize or repress their anger: “I’m in control.”
The Enneagram is so much more than just a simple personality test! When we dive deeper, we learn more about our tendencies, core fears and inner narrative. The things we tell ourselves has a strong hold on the lives we lead. If this felt uncomfortable to read, I get it! As a 7, I know that I am skilled at jumping from fun event to fun event to avoid pain and boredom. It’s not something I’m proud of, but it’s the truth. Knowing is half the battle, right?
I’d love to know how you’re using the Enneagram in your everyday life. Have you shared the quiz with your spouse or family yet? If not, let me encourage you to take that step. I can’t wait to hear about what you learn!